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The Train Incident

After a bit of hustle, I reached the railway station on time with minutes spare to buy a bottle of non-black cold drink. I spotted my coach and headed straight to my side upper seat. Since the journey was yet to start people were moving around to keep their belongings in place and so was the family in the opposite berth. Two middle-aged men were seated on the side lower berth, so placed my bag on the upper seat and casually sat on the diagonally opposite berth. I was plugged in listening to ‘Thunder’.

Couple of seconds later, a teenage girl from the family who was sporting a round neck tee and pajama sat down folding her legs for adjusting the bags underneath the seat while having some conversation with someone who seemed to be her brother.

Let’s name the man sitting on the side lower berth Mr. ASS. So Mr. ASS was sitting with his one leg folded on the seat and another leg twisted under the seat. As he saw the girl bending down to sit, he tried to touch her bums with his toe. However, he failed! With my hands held tight, I kept my eyes locked at him. I did want to act right then and there but kept my calm thinking it could have been a coincidence.

Soon after adjusting the bag, the girl got up but not completely. Mr. ASS then moved his hand forward casually while looking around the compartment. His misfortune, he saw me staring! His hand stopped couple of millimeters before reaching the target. He hoped it was just a coincidence that our eyes met, so he looked away for a second before confirming my glancing angle. Instantly he pulled back his hand but my eyes were still hooked on him. My anger was building up and I was just moments away from smashing his face, although in imagination I already did. A fellow passenger walked by and he sunk back into his seat completely.

In the next couple of seconds, he had a small conversation with the person sitting next to him and they both rushed out of the coach.

I had never encountered such a person before and a sort of panic reaction was going on inside me. Fortunately, the girl was and still is completely unaware of this scenario.

But I wonder, why wasn’t the man accompanying her not careful?

I wonder, how men gather such strength to even think of committing such acts … and so many unanswered questions …

I wonder a lot of things … but encountering this scenario was not even close in my wonderment.

I could barely sleep that night.

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The Metro Incident

Hey pals !

It seems like it a year has passed by since I wrote anything. Quite recently a disturbing incident happened and I was compelled to write about it.

So I was traveling the other night in Delhi metro, sitting comfortably with other fellow passengers while contemplating the time I had left for reaching the railway station. Two passengers seated at the other end started having a quarrel and suddenly almost everyone stopped staring at their smartphones. I could not see their faces but the conversation was audible, loud and clear. Mr. X was asking Mr. Y to stop asking him for monetary help as he clearly mentioned that he wasn’t interested in donating any money. Also he mentioned more than once that Mr. Y cannot pursue this in Delhi metro, coz metro is for travelling and not begging. Mr. Y got offended, obviously, and retaliated with “Who are you to stop me from doing this? Can you give me in writing that this is not allowed ?

Mr. X – “Stop this nonsense or I will ask the CISF police to fetch you out of the metro at the next stop”.

Mr. Y – “You can’t do that. I am travelling with token and not for free”.

Mr. X – “I am a staff in the Delhi metro and I can do that”.

Mr. Y – “Oh yeah now you are a staff in the Delhi metro. Show me your ID then”.

Mr. X casually pulled out his ID from the front pocket of his backpack and handed over to Mr. Y saying “have it”. He indeed was a staff and now table turned slightly towards Mr. X.

Mr. Y while handing back the ID – “So what you are a metro staff, I am doing nothing illegal here. You don’t wanna give me money then don’t”.

Mr. X – “Yes I won’t and now shut your stupid mouth and sit. I will inform the CISF staff tomorrow to keep an eye on you”.

Mr. Y – “How are you gonna do that? You don’t know from where I board the metro or anything about me”.

Another person in the crowd shouted on Mr. Y – “Hey you shut up now. Just because you are blind doesn’t mean what you are doing is right”.

Mr. X – “Couple of minutes back you told that you live in Rohini and that you have a wife and three kids to take care of”.

Mr. Y now irritatingly replied – “Dude I was just fucking with you. Why will I tell you the truth of my whereabouts? Anyone who falls emotional for my tale I fuck more with him”. (In Delhi languageme to chutiya bana rha tha, sach thode hi bataunga kaha rehta hu. Jo jitna sunta h unko utna jyada chutiya banata hu jyada paiso k liye). Saying this Mr. Y got up with his stick and walked carefree past me with an attitude of ‘I encounter this every week’ and was lost in the crowd within seconds.

His final words made me question every single person I have had given money till date… each one had recited a sad tale.

Well, this wasn’t even close to the actual disturbing incident which happened later in the night.

So how about we discuss it in the next post. Stay tuned !

Men too have emotions

It is so damn easy to take a man’s emotion for granted, isn’t it ?

And that too just because the male gender has been tagged with overly misunderstood term called ‘macho‘.

Macho means muscular and not emotionless, right !

Well, if men were emotionless then there would hardly be any opposite gender couples in relationship.

Just do me a favour and google ‘men’s emotions taken for granted‘. Not a single post is for men. Everywhere the notion is — it’s the women who are always the victim. Such is not the case always.

Men also have emotions and emotions are not be played with, be it women or men.

Equality comes from treating each others as equals and not categorising one gender as weak and the other as emotionless.

Let’s bid adieu to the old, misunderstood, misused notions and treat each other’s as humans, coz every human is capable of feelings and emotions.

Stop Judging

Sunday Thought

Most of us don’t take a second thought before passing judgement on someone about anything, whether or not we are an expert in that particular arena.

Be it judging a celebrity’s attitude or passing comment on a fellow worker’s appraisal or commenting on a stranger’s attire; we seldom fail to prove ourselves as critic.

There is huge difference between having a healthy discussion with a fellow human and criticising someone we barely know about.

Pretty cheap of us don’t you think!

Let’s stop judging anyone for anything at all. Let’s just start accepting people for who they are without keeping any preconceived notion.

Proven ways to stay calm under stress

1. Breathe

Although breathing is an unconscious activity but paying attention to it when under stress can help you to relax. The next time when a stressful situation overpowers your actions, stop anything that you’re doing for three minutes and do the following three steps:

  • Close your eyes removing all signs of stress from your facial muscles.
  • Take few deep breaths in and out with your belly, meaning your belly should come forward with each inhale and go back in while exhaling.
  • Try to leave out every single thought in this process, just focus on the breathing.

2. Re-Center

At times it becomes hard to concentrate on work because of some other ongoing agenda in mind. Under such situation, try stepping away from what you are doing to re-center your thoughts.

Just get up and go for a walk

Or

Watch outside the window.

Or

Talk to colleague.

Or

Play some game for a while.

Within few minutes your thoughts will be re-aligned to your job at hand.

3. Comedy

Giving yourself a dose of laughter can prove to be a fantastic way to kill the stress.

You can read some memes online, watch some funny videos on youtube (cat, dog, baby or whatever is your preference), read few of the thousands of jokes forwarded on whatsapp, or share some laugh with colleagues.

4. Music

The power of music is phenomenal. Just put on your headphones, start your current favourite track and let it take control of your thoughts. If your aura permits you can even dance.

5. Future

Stop for a moment and ask yourself this 2 questions –

a. The stress under which I am at the moment, 10 years down the lane will this matter to me?

b. 10 years down the lane will I remember being in this situation? If no, then why care now. If yes, then will I be laughing at it or be weeping?

95% of times you won’t remember being in whatever you are at the moment.


These at the most proven ways to stay calm under stress. So the next time you feel anxious, try and pick anyone of these and see yourself relax in seconds.

Have a happy life!

Inspirational Quotes

Each one of us need inspiration from time to time no matter how strong or emotionally balanced or mature one is. A positive quote / thought can at times give you just the right amount of push. Here are few of the best inspirational quotes:

Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you – Walt Whitman


It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light Aristotle


Don’t Let Yesterday Take Up Too Much Of TodayWill Rogers


I believe that if one always looked at the skies, one would end up with wings – Gustave Flaubert


I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destinationJimmy Dean


If You Are Working On Something That You Really Care About, You Don’t Have To Be Pushed. The Vision Pulls YouSteve Jobs


Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls – Joseph Campbell


And finally one of mine

To achieve dreams one should temporary ignore the harshness of realityKaran Singh Surana


May your tomorrow be as colourful as these quotes. 🙂

An Idea

The world is moving fast and so is the technology and ideas. I shall be going forth here with the discussion on ‘Thought Training’ but with a different angle.

Let’s start with a background story.

It was the winter of 2011; I was casually strolling down the familiar locality of my maternal uncle’s place with my cousin while discussing about the prospect of starting our own mobile recharge company. We discussed in depth the limitations of the presently available e-commerce companies and deduced 4 major USP’s.

We immediately started working on the details as to how to initiate the process. Roughly a week later our vacations ended and we headed back to our respective universities with a promise to keep up the momentum of kick starting the venture. The pressure of exams, assignments and other curricular activities diverted our focus and as early as six months down the lane one of the online recharge company (who could have been our probable competitors) launched 2 out the 4 USP’s. A year later another company included our 3rd USP and just 2 months ago I saw the current e-commerce giant launch the 4th USP.

What I am trying to say here is – If you have some breakthrough idea; don’t assume that you are the only one coming up with it. Since the ideas are thoughts and thoughts tend to wander around the universe, so anyone who is thinking on the same lines as you is bound to be struck by the same idea (frequency).

Having a breakthrough idea is not sufficient anymore. What’s required is how passionately you are willing to devote yourself to that idea?

Because if you don’t, don’t assume somebody else will also not.

Idea