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Men too have emotions

It is so damn easy to take a man’s emotion for granted, isn’t it ?

And that too just because the male gender has been tagged with overly misunderstood term called ‘macho‘.

Macho means muscular and not emotionless, right !

Well, if men were emotionless then there would hardly be any opposite gender couples in relationship.

Just do me a favour and google ‘men’s emotions taken for granted‘. Not a single post is for men. Everywhere the notion is — it’s the women who are always the victim. Such is not the case always.

Men also have emotions and emotions are not be played with, be it women or men.

Equality comes from treating each others as equals and not categorising one gender as weak and the other as emotionless.

Let’s bid adieu to the old, misunderstood, misused notions and treat each other’s as humans, coz every human is capable of feelings and emotions.

The 30th Birthday

I was 18 years old. I had envisioned a perfectly smooth and fun-filled life for myself. I was pursuing B.Tech, had a girlfriend to live for, had friends who would support me in every endeavor and a family to feel of. My dreams were as simple as imagined.

  • Successfully complete B.Tech with grades above 7.5.
  • Get a corporate job before leaving college and pursue it steadily for 2 – 3 years.
  • Meanwhile convince parents for marriage with the one I Love.
  • Get married to my Love by the age of 24.
  • Leave job by 25 – 26 years of age, build up my own business.
  • Enjoy a romantic and exciting life with my wife.
  • Set up the income source perfectly along with family and buy a Honda Civic.
  • Have a kid by 29 – 30 years of age.

These were my plans for the next 12 years.

Today is my 30th birthday.   I am sitting in a rented apartment, 1500kms away from home, in a suit holding a glass of wine and staring at this old torn and taped piece of paper. My then girlfriend is long-lost, probably married (so is my last girlfriend). I am still single, doing a job, living a questionable life away from family.

Even though I say ‘I don’t wanna get married’, but I do. I wanted to get married by the age of 24 and live a happy, healthy life with my love. My dreams encircled the single-most powerful variable – LOVE.

The Phase

There are times or rather a phase in every relationship when couples fight over petty issues. They keep finding flaws and blaming each other. Yelling and bullying dethrones the sensitive love talks. Frustration, tension, irritation, sarcasm and anger shadow’s the true love. Moments come when either one thinks that they may not have made the right decision or that they were not meant to be together or may be their Mrs. Perfect or Mr. Right is someone else and that they should break up and move away from each other. It’s a phase which is surely going to come in every couple’s life who truly love each other. These are in fact the testing times which show the actual strength of the relationship.

Napoleon Hill rightly said – Every adversity, every failure and every heart ache, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.

If they stand by each other during the thunderstorm they will surely realize the depth of their true love; if they part ways, true love was just an illusion.

No matter how far-flung is the conflict but when question comes to break up, the whole world stops (not literally though). One can take the pain of fighting but cannot bear the twinge of losing the one they truly love. The turmoil’s of a day cannot bury the undying love in one’s heart. True Love adds flavors of all kinds of emotions in a person’s life. There will be no feeling left for one to discover.

It’s better to kill the misunderstanding before the misunderstanding slays the relationship.